This is my journey exploring and discovering things that are lovely***
Wednesday, May 15, 2013
"Treat him mean to keep him keen"
The Bible encourages us to be loving, kind, hospitable, warm, friendly (the list goes on) I'm talking about boy girl relationships. When we love someone we are going to be propelled to do things for them to express that love. It may be baking cupcakes or what ever feels most natural to you.
Then the opposing notion says , "treat him mean to keep him keen". Surely if this is the case then the relationship is not being driven by the wagon of love. What do you think?
I think the answer is always love. Loving yourself and loving others.
Love,
Sarah**
poem entitled, 'fantasy girl'
"I don't know how to be anyone other than me,
just as well cos I don't want to be your fantasy.
I have a heart, feelings (in case you were wondering),
sometimes they are messy, if you were pondering.
at times I think too much - I'm not a saint
I'm emotional so add that colour to your array of paint
I would apologise for being sensitive but it works well in other things,
I'm a rare song few birds dare to sing
but I'm afraid I'm not your fantasy and it scares me too,
but individuals there are too few
I can't offer you your version of me,
there is no person I'd like to be other than me.
Just as well cos I don't want to be your fantasy,
I can't just snap in and out of my feelings magically.
I have a heart full of feelings that lead me into more truth,
if I were a house, don't be the roof
I don't want to be your fantasy girl.
I have a heart and I like to twirl.
I want to love without bounds,
I am a bird that makes unique pretty sounds"
Saturday, May 11, 2013
they say woman are confusing...and men, not?
They say woman are confusing and then are men not? I think not. I'm not confused about it.
A friend and I have been reading articles of the 'pull back' that men do when the relationship is getting too personal, involved, intimate or deep. Apparently when things get too deep men feel like they are losing part of themselves and pull away. They feel like they are losing their independence. So that's the why part but the how part is where it becomes difficult for us girls.
Naturally us girls want to talk about problems. This is our way of working through them. Whereas if you read the book, "Men are from Mars, Woman are from Venus" you will see that men don't deal with problems like this. Naturally they go into the 'cave' where they can deal with the problem, alone.
"Great!" I say *sarcasm enter* "he is withdrawing cos his love for me is growing". That sounds like an oxymoron to me. Sounds confusing. These articles then go on to encourage women to give him the space he needs. Men need to understand that this is unnatural for us ladies and us ladies need to understand that it is unnatural for men to talk talk talk. Hear me out on this, this is something that fascinates me and what the books have told me but are these really just an excuse that he is just not that into you?
Girls perspective: If a guy withdraws he is not interested. If he doesn't text, he isn't thinking about you. If he doesn't call, you are not on his mind. If he withdraws it is because he wants to and something else is more important.
Another thing that confuses me about men is their fear to pursue. While chatting to my black African friend she was telling me about how black men really know how to pursue a girl. They will go up to her and tell her that she is beautiful. They will bug and insist and pursue until no end. I've noticed with white boys it is the exact opposite. If he likes you it is as if you don't exist. how delightful *sarcasm has entered for the long run.
Girls perspective: If a guy wants a girl in his life he will pursue. He will let go of his fears (including that of rejection) which I see and hear so many white guys possess.
Is the notion of pulling back and 'I'm too afraid to commit' an excuse for plain and simply I'm just not into you?
Love,
Confused Sarah**
A friend and I have been reading articles of the 'pull back' that men do when the relationship is getting too personal, involved, intimate or deep. Apparently when things get too deep men feel like they are losing part of themselves and pull away. They feel like they are losing their independence. So that's the why part but the how part is where it becomes difficult for us girls.
Naturally us girls want to talk about problems. This is our way of working through them. Whereas if you read the book, "Men are from Mars, Woman are from Venus" you will see that men don't deal with problems like this. Naturally they go into the 'cave' where they can deal with the problem, alone.
"Great!" I say *sarcasm enter* "he is withdrawing cos his love for me is growing". That sounds like an oxymoron to me. Sounds confusing. These articles then go on to encourage women to give him the space he needs. Men need to understand that this is unnatural for us ladies and us ladies need to understand that it is unnatural for men to talk talk talk. Hear me out on this, this is something that fascinates me and what the books have told me but are these really just an excuse that he is just not that into you?
Girls perspective: If a guy withdraws he is not interested. If he doesn't text, he isn't thinking about you. If he doesn't call, you are not on his mind. If he withdraws it is because he wants to and something else is more important.
Another thing that confuses me about men is their fear to pursue. While chatting to my black African friend she was telling me about how black men really know how to pursue a girl. They will go up to her and tell her that she is beautiful. They will bug and insist and pursue until no end. I've noticed with white boys it is the exact opposite. If he likes you it is as if you don't exist. how delightful *sarcasm has entered for the long run.
Girls perspective: If a guy wants a girl in his life he will pursue. He will let go of his fears (including that of rejection) which I see and hear so many white guys possess.
Is the notion of pulling back and 'I'm too afraid to commit' an excuse for plain and simply I'm just not into you?
Love,
Confused Sarah**
dreamer and daughter, what about you?
Todays challenge:
Sell yourself in 10 words or less
dreamer. forgiven. believer. designer. princess. thinker. beauty seeker. mover. peaceful.
If you had to describe yourself in 10 words, what would you say?
xxx
Sell yourself in 10 words or less
dreamer. forgiven. believer. designer. princess. thinker. beauty seeker. mover. peaceful.
If you had to describe yourself in 10 words, what would you say?
xxx
Friday, May 10, 2013
"baby, we survived it marvellously"...
Nearing the end of my life I want to whisper to my husband, "Oh baby, our life was fun and dangerous. We took risks and we lived. We came alive and lived it to the full. We enjoyed it and forever will. No one else could've survived it so marvellously as you and I did. I couldn't have done it without you by my side".
I'm not married. I don't have a boyfriend. At this stage I am not directly moulding his character (other than through prayer) but I can mould mine. I can become the kind of woman I want to be and I would like to marry if I were a man. For many years I've repeatedly asked myself, "what kind of woman do I want to be?". The question pops up again today. Side note: these posts are not all encompassing but personal summaries. I want to be a flapper.
In a sense a flapper is a revolutionist in lifestyle and in fashion. By definition a flapper is a young woman and refers to a young bird flapping its wings while learning to fly.
Writers in the United States such as F. Scott Fitzgerald and Anita Loos and illustrators such as Russell Patterson, John Held, Jr., Ethel Hays and Faith Burrows popularized the flapper look and lifestyle through their works, and flappers came to be seen as attractive, reckless, and independent. I want to be someone who takes risks. Someone who is spontaneous. Someone who does what scares me the most. I want to be a bird. I want to fly. I want to lose sight of the ground. I want to make courage a physical thing.
My dad asked me to go to Namibia with him at 8pm on the Sunday night and we left 4 am the next morning. I want to be the kind of person who jumps if God asks me to do something or go somewhere. 'Then I heard the Lord asking, "Whom should I send as a messenger to this people? Who will go for us?" I said, "Here I am. Send me." Lets be ready armed with courage when the opportunity presents itself. Lets fly-even if it is with fear in our hearts, lets fly!
To finish off I want to leave you with a quote from my favourite, Marilyn Monroe:
"We should all start to live before we get too old. Fear is stupid so are regrets".
p.s Please don't get me wrong, I fully understand that a flapper was later known as a promiscuous woman who drank a lot. This is not what I am talking about. What I am acknowledging in this post is that a flapper was someone who marked change in behaviour and in dress. That takes courage, that is what I acknowledge.
Love,
Sarah**
I'm not married. I don't have a boyfriend. At this stage I am not directly moulding his character (other than through prayer) but I can mould mine. I can become the kind of woman I want to be and I would like to marry if I were a man. For many years I've repeatedly asked myself, "what kind of woman do I want to be?". The question pops up again today. Side note: these posts are not all encompassing but personal summaries. I want to be a flapper.
In a sense a flapper is a revolutionist in lifestyle and in fashion. By definition a flapper is a young woman and refers to a young bird flapping its wings while learning to fly.
Writers in the United States such as F. Scott Fitzgerald and Anita Loos and illustrators such as Russell Patterson, John Held, Jr., Ethel Hays and Faith Burrows popularized the flapper look and lifestyle through their works, and flappers came to be seen as attractive, reckless, and independent. I want to be someone who takes risks. Someone who is spontaneous. Someone who does what scares me the most. I want to be a bird. I want to fly. I want to lose sight of the ground. I want to make courage a physical thing.
My dad asked me to go to Namibia with him at 8pm on the Sunday night and we left 4 am the next morning. I want to be the kind of person who jumps if God asks me to do something or go somewhere. 'Then I heard the Lord asking, "Whom should I send as a messenger to this people? Who will go for us?" I said, "Here I am. Send me." Lets be ready armed with courage when the opportunity presents itself. Lets fly-even if it is with fear in our hearts, lets fly!
To finish off I want to leave you with a quote from my favourite, Marilyn Monroe:
"We should all start to live before we get too old. Fear is stupid so are regrets".
p.s Please don't get me wrong, I fully understand that a flapper was later known as a promiscuous woman who drank a lot. This is not what I am talking about. What I am acknowledging in this post is that a flapper was someone who marked change in behaviour and in dress. That takes courage, that is what I acknowledge.
Love,
Sarah**
clank and cringe...
Today, I came across this blog, http://storyofmylifetheblog.blogspot.com/2013/04/blog-every-day-in-may-challenge.html and it is has a challenge for bloggers to blog everyday of May. Unfortunately I only saw this today but I'm rather keen on the challenge. Today's challenge:
Most embarrassing moment (s). Spill.
It is a moment that still haunts me today. My brother teases me about it. I crnige when I think about it. Yes I am putting off actually telling you about it cos well... its embarrassing. So what exactly is it?
Well... In primary school, I was very much into running. Long distance running. Not hurdles but long distance running. I had not done hurdles before but I decided on Athletics day that I too was going to do them. So on your marks, get set, go! and then clank. The hurdle fell. I guess I had never thought about who picks up the hurdles...so I did. Run and then clank, pick up the hurdle, run again and repeat. How embarrassing. But rather cute when I think about it. How well meaning of me to help the officials to pick up hurdles.
hahahahahahaha....
What is your most embarrassing moment?
Most embarrassing moment (s). Spill.
It is a moment that still haunts me today. My brother teases me about it. I crnige when I think about it. Yes I am putting off actually telling you about it cos well... its embarrassing. So what exactly is it?
Well... In primary school, I was very much into running. Long distance running. Not hurdles but long distance running. I had not done hurdles before but I decided on Athletics day that I too was going to do them. So on your marks, get set, go! and then clank. The hurdle fell. I guess I had never thought about who picks up the hurdles...so I did. Run and then clank, pick up the hurdle, run again and repeat. How embarrassing. But rather cute when I think about it. How well meaning of me to help the officials to pick up hurdles.
hahahahahahaha....
What is your most embarrassing moment?
Thursday, May 9, 2013
I'm seeing stars****
I'm guna shoot straight to the point (like a shooting star) by saying that some people are like stars: inspirational from far but burn like hell up close. Some people should stay just that: people. Not friends but people. Acquaintances. Whilst there are times where we just don't expect people to burn like hell. I'm not talking about people who bring correction here. Friends should have a place to correct_in love. Friends should speak the truth even if it hurts. What I'm talking about are people who just burn like hell. More than they should on a consistent basis. Friends/people who betray on a regular basis (maybe they share your intimate details with randoms to scheme against you)...
Jesus knew what it was like when he was betrayed by Judas. I'm sure he knew that Judas was going to betray him (He is God after all) but he still entered into the relationship. We on the other hand do not know that our friends may just betray us and if they do it burns like hell. It burns more when it is someone close to us such as a friend. Much like stars we assume they will be references of light, guidance and inspiration. But as we voyage closer the warmth becomes heat and the heat, fire and fire a ball of hell.
So what then? do we enter into every relationship with fear that they might burn like hell? Hells no! Jesus offered grace to Judas and opportunities for reconnection and repentance. We should do the same.
When choosing friends we look for people who are like the moon: bright from reflecting light. As we get closer the moon gets bigger. Friends that are like moons give us bouncy. They allow us to float and I can only imagine how fun that would be. The Moon is in synchronous rotation with Earth, always showing the same face with its near side marked by dark volcanic maria. It is not two faced. Sincere. Find friends who have their face turned toward yours-in the good times and in the bad. That are open and allow you to have fun.
Enter into relationships with love and when things don't work out, offer love and grace but stars are at a distance for a reason. Maybe, just maybe, we should keep some people at that kind of distance too.
One last point:
We wont always find comfort from people to understand that these people/stars burn because as I stated before: from far they look inspirational.
You are just going to have to go with your OWN gut and noggin on this one ;)
Love Sarah***
Jesus knew what it was like when he was betrayed by Judas. I'm sure he knew that Judas was going to betray him (He is God after all) but he still entered into the relationship. We on the other hand do not know that our friends may just betray us and if they do it burns like hell. It burns more when it is someone close to us such as a friend. Much like stars we assume they will be references of light, guidance and inspiration. But as we voyage closer the warmth becomes heat and the heat, fire and fire a ball of hell.
So what then? do we enter into every relationship with fear that they might burn like hell? Hells no! Jesus offered grace to Judas and opportunities for reconnection and repentance. We should do the same.
When choosing friends we look for people who are like the moon: bright from reflecting light. As we get closer the moon gets bigger. Friends that are like moons give us bouncy. They allow us to float and I can only imagine how fun that would be. The Moon is in synchronous rotation with Earth, always showing the same face with its near side marked by dark volcanic maria. It is not two faced. Sincere. Find friends who have their face turned toward yours-in the good times and in the bad. That are open and allow you to have fun.
Enter into relationships with love and when things don't work out, offer love and grace but stars are at a distance for a reason. Maybe, just maybe, we should keep some people at that kind of distance too.
One last point:
We wont always find comfort from people to understand that these people/stars burn because as I stated before: from far they look inspirational.
You are just going to have to go with your OWN gut and noggin on this one ;)
Love Sarah***
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